23. Unconditional love and acceptance are the best gifts I can give and receive.

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The feeling of unconditional love is a one that is sacred, raw and beautiful. To love unconditionally is one of the greatest gifts that you can give yourself and others. One of my most important lessons in life is to know that I am worthy of unconditional love. This was not always something that I believed that I was worthy of nor did I feel deserving of it. I was always trying to change aspects of self that I felt were not good enough to make others happy especially in my relationships. It was until such a time in my own life when I went deep into self-discovery, learnt to accept all parts of self that I truly felt that I am so worthy and deserving of unconditional love, just as we all are.  I no longer feel that I need to change to “fit” in with others rather I have come to accept that I am perfect and whole just the way I am. That doesn’t mean that I put myself on a pedestal or feel that I am better than anybody else. What I do know is that when I come from a place of compassion and love for others then in turn I am able to love myself and others unconditionally.

My life and the circle of people that surround me is based on a foundation of unconditional love. I love myself enough to know that this is the ultimate gift that I can give myself and others. It doesn’t mean that I stop learning and healing, it simply means that I recognise when I am not and challenge myself to be on the path of unconditional love and compassion always. Don’t get me wrong I still get myself worked up in tangents and can become a raving lunatic. My drama queen ego comes out to play but ultimately it gets me nowhere. In fact it makes me tired and my energy feels like crap. It actually serves me no purpose other than to recognise that I am not in my truth nor I am coming from unconditional love for myself and others. For if I am living and feeling unconditional love and acceptance my life is free flowing with grace and ease, when I am not then not so much!

Sending unconditional love to people and situations that have caused you harm or grief can often be one of the most challenging aspects of unconditional love and acceptance that I have felt so far. There are times when I haven’t felt like giving unconditional love to the tool that pissed me off! I want to be pissed off. What I am able to recognise through this feeling is that the only person that I am harming through this process is me. My buttons have been pushed for a reason and the lesson in the feelings that have emerged is often what the gift is. It is the gift of acceptance and healing and this is by far the greatest feeling of unconditional love to experience. Unconditional love and acceptance are the best gifts I can give and receive. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

 

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

Just like the bright sun, I am radiant being. Others feel safe and warm in my presence.

I have to have a laugh at the affirmation today because I was far from being a bright sun. It is not a joyful laugh but an almost psychotic shrill at the irony of what the affirmation means for me right now.  I almost contemplated not writing today but as my writing is about compassion I thought I would walk my talk and recognise that each experience is one that I can learn from. I had far from pleasant interactions today and if you asked those that spent the day with me I am not quite sure that that would have described me as a bright sun or feeling warm and safe in my presence. Jokes aside I actually love the way the universe presents me with what is important each and every time. For the situations that caused me grief today, thanks for reminding me that life is about embracing the good, bad and the ugly and today ugly reared its head. In fact I just told the telemarketer on the phone that I had a shitty day and if he was happy to bear the brunt of my crap then I would happily speak to him. He declined and hung up.

I am proud of my dark side and funnily (or not so funny) I dressed in all black today something that I do not normally do. It is all about perception I suppose. I am learning to embrace and love all parts of self and to honour that ALL of me with love and respect. Yes I am premenstrual, yes I am tired and yes the full moon is coming. Sure there are days when “stuff” doesn’t flow and the universe forces up to step up and review what is important. What is not important is drama and stories. I can either choose to get sucked up in the whirlwind of crap or see today for what it was, a shitty day that teaches me about compassion. It may take me a while to find compassion for this one but what I do know is that personal responsibility for the way that we act and treat others is primarily ours.

What today taught me is that life more than ever is about precious humanity. I do not want to spend my days or life in drama of my own or of other. (unless of course I am on the stage performing in a famous kind of cabaret show). Every person or situation is a mirror. The triggers that are presented allow us to see the viewpoint of where in our lives this may have been similar. I am sure that there was a time in my life where I did not take personal responsibility and create drama any way I could in fact I am sure of it. But I live and learn. I know today was a reminder from the universe to review my life purpose and focus. I can choose to get caught up in the actions of another or I can focus on the unconditional love and most beautiful hug that I received that made today so worthwhile.  Just like the bright sun, I am radiant being. Others feel safe and warm in my presence. Blessed be and so it is, so it is done. Namaste.

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

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19. I release all things that no longer benefit me: objects, ideas, habits or relationships.

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It is full on to sit here and know that the first month of 2015 has already passed us by and that the 5th day of February has already arrived. This year I decided not to write every day rather when I felt that it was right for me to do. What is far more important for is to live a life coming from my heart space and coming from a place of compassion. For me it was also about releasing an expectation about something that I felt that I had to do every day. The affirmation for today has come at the perfect time as the universe truly works and weaves its magic each and every time.

The message at the beginning of February from the I Can Do It 2015 Louise Hay Calendar states “I have discovered that I am becoming more confident in my daily choices. I know that Life supports me, and I step forward feeling safe and protected”  This particular statement coincides beautifully with the affirmation for the day because the more I release what no longer serves the more confident I become with the choices that I make. Life is pretty simply but as human beings we tend to complicate with a whole heap of stuff. We like to critique and over analyse what is going on in our lives, only to leave us drained, feeling stressed and overwhelmed. It serves no purpose if we are creating drama and angst.

The last few years I certainly feel like my life has changed in ways that I am eternally grateful. The most important aspect of discovery is being of service and stepping up and stepping into my authentic self. Being my authentic self and acknowledging all parts of me not just the parts that look and feel good. I have also realised that eating humble pie does not always taste great but far out it is liberating. Taking personal responsibility and understanding that all that has been created is simply a reflection of me allows me to be more confident in what I do. In doing so I am totally safe and protected in all that I do and I know and feel this each and every day. That doesn’t mean that I am a bag of roses and that I am happy clappy 24/7. I still get annoyed and I get crabby but what I don’t do is blame. Sure somebody or something may have triggered a response but if the feeling didn’t dwell in me there would be no reaction.

So when I am confronted with a situation that no longer serves, I am able to thank whatever it is for showing me what it is that I needed to learn. I heard a conversation the other day where an elderly mother was saying to her son that she wishes that there would be no more fighting in the worlds. His response was “it is not realistic”. I judged him and my first response was “you are a tool” if we never imagine what it would feel like then of course it will never be possible. I felt so much love for the elderly mother whose vision it was for to have a world of peace. Then I sunk back into my heart space and sent the son love and compassion in the hope that one day he too will feel that there would be a world with no fighting and filled with peace. I also had to acknowledge that there was a time in me where I had limiting beliefs. Oh how sweet are the lessons of life! Sure he may be limiting to what his beliefs are but if I am calling him a tool it is because I myself have been “a tool” at some point. It is bittersweet. I release all things that no longer benefit me: objects, ideas, habits or relationships. Blessed be and so it is, so it is done. Namaste.

 

 

 

 

Love

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

18. Everyone changes, and I allow change in everyone.

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Oh my, how things change but how bloody boring life would be if it all stayed the same. Sometimes change is forced upon us and hits us like a brick wall and we really don’t know what to do with it. There are other times when change shakes our whole world inside out and upside down. Change can cause us to be incredibly anxious and fearful. If we didn’t change it would simply be groundhog day and not sure about you but quite frankly I much prefer spontaneity and excitement to dull and dreary. There is a simple saying that I love and allows me to take responsibility for what happens in my life and it states “For things to change. First I must change” Simple but ever so true.

One of the most gracious gifts that we can deliver to ourselves is personal responsibility. When things happen in life we often look for a scape goat or a reason as to why it has occurred. Life presents us with challenges on so many levels. At times it feels like are climbing a never ending mountain only for an avalanche to occur and we are right back to where we have started. It feels like crap and we have every right to be tired and weary. What can happen in these instances is that we can simply fall into a heap at the bottom (which is totally OK) or we can rest and find the courage and strength to start again. It doesn’t mean either way that we have failed rather it reminds us that there is so much strength in our vulnerability and allowing change to happen around is simply part of the process. Sometimes the avalanche has to occur in order for us to simply stop and allow change to occur. When we don’t listen the universe certainly forces us to, which then allows time to refocus and continue on the path we are meant to travel.

Sometimes change feel like a slap in the face and it takes a while to embrace what has actually occurred. Other times the change is so fricken awesome and it welcome so many opportunities. Allowing others to change is liberating, sometimes that may mean that the path once shared is no longer but I truly believe that it is part of a divine plan that leads us to extraordinary things. I can speak with experience about this for each time I have felt betrayed or rejected by something or someone it has only been because the universe had bigger and better plans for me. I no longer choose to get up in the drama or why, where and how it all occurred. It is irrelevant. Life is too precious for that. It doesn’t mean that I do not feel but when you only come from a place of love and compassion there is no other way. Everyone changes, and I allow change in everyone. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

 

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

17. Harmony surrounds me. All is well in my world.

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I’ve refrained all day from writing my blog because quite frankly I haven’t really wanted to feel. I spent two days away after the funeral of my aunt, which was exactly what I needed. The death of a family member is something that we all will or have experienced at some time or another and for each of us the feelings and emotions are different. What is real is grief and coming home last night noticing the red rose that we received from her coffin stared me in the face. The whole thing had actually happened, but it was time for bed and I went to sleep. This morning when I got up and climbed down my stairs it was the first thing I noticed and again I realised that it was real.

So as I glanced upon the affirmation today on several occasions. I didn’t want to write about all being well in my world because I felt like crap! My body feels tired, my heart feels heavy and the realisation that life can all too quickly pass us by is so bloody real. I know it has only been a  few short weeks and I am sure there will be many more moments, hours or days when I may feel like this again but right now it feels so raw and hurts so much. I can’t pretend nor do I want to but what I can do is allow myself to feel harmony in a way that I know how.

So for today I am being compassionate to myself and looking after me the way I know how. I would love to drink a few bottles of red wine and pretend it never happened but I also know it will come back until I deal with whatever it is that I am feeling at the time. So for now I will cry the tears that I need to cry, lie in Mother Earth and allow her to cradle my body so I can soak up her loving energy, listen to music, mediate and make myself a big fat bowl of popcorn and watch a movie. This is all I can muster for today. I may never be able to physically touch her again but I know that if I close my eyes I can feel her in my soul and heart and this brings me harmony. Harmony surrounds me. All is well in my world. Blessed be and so it is, so it is done. Namaste.

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

10. I am on a path where positive thinking and optimistic attitude guide all my choices.

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Thank Buddha\Allah\God\Me whoever that I am on this path! Back in February 2013 I began an experiment that I would turn anything negative in my life into a positive. There is a whole story attached to that year but quite frankly I much prefer to live in the now. What I can say is that it totally works and being mindful of every word and thought that we speak and think is huge on so many levels.  I was speaking with a friend today and we were speaking about situations in our lives, things that had happened and simply stuff. What we were both grateful about was that although situations may happen in our lives, and you may very well be upset offended it is the way that you deal with it that makes a huge difference.

You can choose to rant and rave about it or put your big girl undies, learn from it and speak lovingly rather than with distaste. A big lesson for me as I am know that there have been many occasions where I have participated in idle gossip or bitched and moaned about others. I am happy to eat humble pie, it doesn’t always taste great as it about you being vulnerable and uncomfortable but far out I would prefer that than staying the same. It is something I choose not to partake in any longer as the vibration of the energy does not resonate with me. More importantly it does not align with my values or compassion or being of service to humanity.

There are so many other issues in the world that require attention.  Today I learnt of the news that over 2,000 people were massacred in Nigeria. I have sat here for a while now and wondered how the hell I speak positively about that when all I feel is pure heartbreak and devastation for the precious souls that lost their loves to reckless and pointless killing. What I have been able to come up with is that it has further affirmed that I don’t want to waste time on “drama & stories”. Life is travelling at lightning speed and I want to live each moment doing what is of importance and significance. Idle gossip and “stuff” does not equate to justice and compassion. Sure “stuff & stories” will always come up but it is how they are dealt with that makes the difference and allows the positive outcomes and attitudes to occur. I am on a path where positive thinking and optimistic attitude guide all my choices. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

 

Sonia

Xoo

6. I offer those around me patience, encouragement, support, a cheerful word, the gift of a smile – and most of all appreciation.

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Being kind and compassionate to one another is a given. When we were born into this lifetime we were born with unconditional love. Along the way we learnt and adapted to so many things that did not come from love. These places could have been derived from fear, survival, whatever, it actually doesn’t matter. It is not a matter of blame, our parents or carers did the best that they knew how. What matters most now is our own personal responsibility and returning to the state of being that is love, truth, compassion and integrity. We gather so much crap along the way and if we don’t get rid of it and let it go our view point of the world becomes bitter and twisted and we only operate from fear and ego.

It is fairly easy to offer your loved ones patience, encouragement and support. For most people this state of being is simple. When I reflect on the affirmation for the day what comes to mind are the elderly people that live in our society. This is especially so for those who live with dementia. Dementia can be seen and felt as a cruel and debilitating disease. Having worked in the Aged Care Sector for almost 6 years I felt the pain of family members so often. I only said to my aunty the other day how much I miss working with people with dementia. There is something truly special about what we are able to learn from those that live in dementia. Feeling sorry and sad may be a natural reaction but connecting heart to heart is far more meaningful than most interactions that as human beings we exist with.

When I reflect on why I enjoyed working in Aged Care so much what resonates the most for me is being in the moment. Sometimes there are no words and what needs to be expressed can only be felt. There is communication beyond words and a connection that no matter how much memory loss that may appear to the surface the heart always feels. So whilst there is a beating heart there is always hope and faith.We don’t require words to feel.

So for today and every day offer appreciation, support, patience, encouragement and a smile to somebody that you may not normally. Get involved with some voluntary work if you feel, spend time with the elderly, do whatever is right for you. These are the small things that make the world we live in a brighter place.  I offer those around me patience, encouragement, support, a cheerful word, the gift of a smile – and most of all appreciation. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

 

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

1.Today begins a positive chapter in my life- the start of an exciting new adventure.

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Today is the 1st day of 2015 and I start a new blog with fresh goals and intentions. For me it is about truly living in my heart space, coming from a place of compassion and being of service. It sounds so simple yet one of the most profound lessons that I am learning that makes life truly special. This year is the first time in a long while that I have woken up with no hangover on New Year’s Day (Go Me!). Quite a contrast to previous years and possibly the best I have ever felt. There is no judgement rather an acknowledgment of where my life is now and the life I am choosing to create.

I have spent the last couple of days in serene country Victoria. It has been magical as my cousin and I have truly loved being in the moment, amongst Mother Nature and her bliss. I have spent some of my time writing in a “workbook” that I have purchased for myself about goals and dreams for 2015. For me this year is about being adventurous, fun, liberating and filled with compassion. There is a quote that I spotted today on the fridge where I am staying it reads “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure, it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us” It was written by Marianne Williamson and read by Nelson Mandela. A quote I have seen many times before which means so much especially on such a significant day of the year.

An intention that I have set for myself is to “buy nothing new” for 365 days! This one is a biggie for me as I do love a bit of retail therapy but I am stepping out of my comfort zone and going with it. Furthermore it is not only about not consuming “things” that I do not require but being more aware of the environment. So for now it is about embracing all that each day brings, filled with love and compassion. Today begins a positive chapter in my life- the start of an exciting new adventure. Blessed be. So it is. So it is done. Namaste.

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

193. Know That Love is the Key

God and angels,

I ask for your assistance in opening my heart. Please help me be aware of my soul, mind and body. Guide me to leave behind any old pain, anger, or hurt and enter the New Year with a clean and open heart. Assist me in loving fearlessly, with grace and acceptance. Help me love like an angel.

Thank You.

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Today is the last day of 2014. I thought it fitting to choose the last affirmation from the book Daily Guidance from your Angels by Doreen Virtue. Earlier this year in April I set myself a challenge to heal open and soothe my heart space. About a month ago I came to the realisation that if my intention was to take 365 days to open , heal and soothe my heart space then it would not be till April next year till this happened. It was one of those moments when I had to giggle at myself and simply just feel that the time was now.

As I close off the year spending some time away in a beautiful bush setting, I feel so much gratitude for the year and the lessons that have prevailed. For me this year resonates with freedom because of the magnificence of layers that have been unveiled and simply because of the love I have in my heart for myself and others. I am not perfect nor do I claim to be but what I do know is that I have found peace in my heart that I have not known before. Love that resonates not because of a man or a relationship that I am in but because of the love and compassion I have for myself. Although I am happy to put it out there that I am ready for the perfect relationship with a man. J

The work that I do in Cambodia continues to teach me gratitude in ways that I have not experienced before. Having travelled to Cambodia twice this year it is now a part of my life where being of service to others simply is what I do and who I am. Our responsibility to each other is what is real. This is my passion in life and what makes my heart sing.

As I sit and write my final blog for 2014 I feel in my heart what have been the most important lessons. To have no judgement of others as we are all the same. To learn to let go of situations, resentment and bitterness, for it is with full responsibility and knowing that in some way I have created and attracted whatever it may be in my life. To know that we are all equal and that we are one tribe in our universe. To love with no fear for when I truly love myself then love is unconditional.  To be of service, as it is our responsibility for living on planet earth. To have compassion towards myself and others, for without compassion in our hearts we cannot truly love and without love there in no other. That life is truly magical and filled with miracles each and every day. I am one with the universe. I am love. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

 

191. Honour Your Compassionate Heart

I have a naturally compassionate heart. My prayers for other people are powerful and healing. I am doing the best I can, and I can give myself a break. I practise non judgement toward myself and others.

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This year would have to be one of the most interesting lessons that I am learning about the relationships that I have in my life. First things first it is about me taking responsibility in what has been created and doing so with compassion and love. compassion noun – a strong feeling of understanding, pity or sympathy for the sufferings of another[1]. For the first time I am truly understanding what it feels to have a compassionate heart. To not blame but rather to take responsibility and to know that we are divinely connected and are one. I haven’t always understood this and for the first time in my life I know and understand that this is what it feels like to have an open heart.

This is not to say that I don’t ever get tested or that my patience is at perfection. Rather the contrary, I have feelings, I have reactions and I am human. What is important is that I don’t judge myself or others. Part of the experience in learning and unveiling more layers. What I am able to recognise and practise more is compassion, compassion for myself and others in all areas of life. As the year begins to draw to a close it is often a time of reflection on what has and hasn’t been. It is often really easy to hold the great memories in our hearts and minds but for whatever reason we shun away the disappointments and heartbreaks and talk about them with angst and resentment. It is often these lessons that teach us the most and teach us who we really are.

Practicing compassion would have to be for me one of the most liberating lessons of all. Quan Yin is the Goddess of Compassion. I have always resonated with her energy and now I can really feel what it means to love with compassion and especially to those who may cause harm and distress to others. For me it was about learning to let go of situations that I had felt “hard done by” when it was in fact it was an area of my life where I needed to look inward in order to learn the lessons and move on.  For if I have attracted energy that is not aligned with my higher self then there is a part of me where it dwells within or that I accepted into my life somewhere along the way. Most importantly it is essential to have compassion towards myself, for this is often the most difficult lesson to learn. For when you find compassion in your heart and to truly feel it is freedom. All I do, I do with a compassionate heart. Blessed be and so it is. So it is done. Namaste.

 

With a sprinkle of fairy dust and may magic follow your day.

Sonia

Xoo

 

[1] Heinemann Australian Dictionary THIRD EDITION